A 22-year-old says, “Hey, I’ve fully tried every religion and philosophy there is. How come I can’t find Ultimate Reality or inner peace?”
Notice how on the Roadrunner cartoon the coyote only tries each costly contraption once.
Trying hard at everything could mean not giving the right things enough time and space to work. By time, I mean consistency—consistent learning, practice, delivery… And by space, I mean resourcefulness—keeping specifics open to modifications in terms of exactly how, where, with whom… Continue reading
You’ve been sitting at a railway station, watching others come and go on trains. But you’re not really sure where you’re headed.
It doesn’t matter why everyone else seems sure. And you might never be. That’s ok.
The unbearable feeling of wasting life brings pressure just jump on any train. Continue reading
Anger can do two things—one harmful, one helpful—both of which bring you fully into the present moment.
Anger sets your focus on how you wish things were right now. It fuels itself on what you feel is unfair or wrong with your current situation.
But acting on that anger could conflict with what you want in the long run . . . especially if how things are right now isn’t ultimately that important.
Anger can also heighten your intuition and instincts. If you ever have to fight for anything in your career (or elsewhere), anger can be a great source of power to draw from.
So, should you be brought fully into the present moment?
Realizing that you don’t want your current (old) life is enough. Set that change in your perspective free, and it charts a course you could never plan for (though the right plans construct themselves as you go) to a life you already have the means to step out into and experience now.
I recommend finding a way that works for you to naturally come to life somewhere online. Do so consistently over time, and you gradually connect with all the right people who want the same things you do.
Keep going, and the new life you want gets clearer and clearer until one day you find yourself already living and enjoying it.
Overall, people really aren’t that complicated. We move toward what we tend to focus on.
That same basic premise gets articulated many ways. Listen to Earl Nightingale’s powerful speeches from the ‘50s, read The Secret, follow the Faith movement in Christianity, or examine anything under the Law-of-Attraction umbrella. Continue reading
Self-esteem doesn’t come from idealistic abstractions or images; it comes from knowing you’re taking your own next steps to live your best life right now. Continue reading
Great question, since I believe emotions are physical. Yes, the stories we tell ourselves about them are mental abstractions—those looping conscious thought patterns that serve to perpetuate our state. But the feelings themselves exist in our body. Continue reading
Don’t fight your feelings.
Instead, let your feelings show you exactly what you want right now. Continue reading
Ok, the glib answer: nothing
You might accomplish enough wealth to protect yourself from all attacks and ridicule; but the only way to avoid being messed with then would be total isolation. And that would be messing with yourself more than anyone else ever could, because it’s impossible to live a worthwhile life completely disconnected. Continue reading
This is actually an ongoing choice, and I’m glad whenever I’m forced to make it; it’s a choice that changes my life the same wonderful way each time.
It’s the choice to let go of what I think I’m supposed to be, and to just be the best version of what I am. Continue reading
The offspring of doubt is motionlessness.
And by that I don’t mean peaceful stillness, but anxious paralysis watching progress being stifled.
Doubt’s parents are perfection and certainty. Continue reading
If you could ask the Earth to tell you about itself, what would it describe?
Would it mention oceans? Mountains? Trees? Bugs? Lava? Microbes? Atoms?
Could there ever be an end to the describing, when you’d know all there is to know? Continue reading
The full potential of positive thought depends on whether or not you believe in magic. But we’ll get back to that.
People really aren’t that complicated. What you tend to focus on and talk about sets the general course for the direction you’re going. Continue reading
A friend and I were walking back to my house once after school.
Some kids started harassing my friend, laughing at him, and just trying to get a rise.
My friend turned to me and asked, “Why don’t people like me?” But there was no emotion in his voice. His tone was quizzical and curious. He wasn’t upset, but genuinely interested. Continue reading
I think it’s important to realize you don’t hate yourself. If you did, you wouldn’t want to fix it. You’d be happy to see yourself hurt, failing, hopeless, rejected…
You might be really concerned about yourself.
Chances are you’re fixated on your [potential] flaws, and don’t generally see yourself as being any good. Specifics like your appearance, ways, voice, etc. might make you cringe whenever you notice them. Continue reading
Once Rocky wins the title (in Rocky II), he finds out his trainer has been fixing easy fights to keep him safe.
He then loses the championship, his trainer dies, and he’s left completely broken and filled with self-doubt. Continue reading
You might sense an insurmountable gap between your inner world (with all its potential) and what others can currently understand or appreciate of it.
But the second half of knowing, thinking, and being (as a person) is learning to communicate; otherwise any treasures you find within yourself stay locked up and unknown. Continue reading
It might help to look at different motivations people have for wanting to be moral.
There seem to be two basic camps:
Some feel they should be moral in order to meet some given standard or ideal. To these, morality becomes a black-and-white list of rules that spell out which behaviors are acceptable and which deserve shame or judgment. Continue reading
You’re lost if you’re not making forward progress.
In the show, Lost, a bunch of individuals were stuck on an island until each could overcome whatever was specifically holding them back from moving on.
Forward progress means building and bringing your unique value(s). Continue reading
I’ve felt that way at times: as though I’ve wasted my best, most precious years.
I’ve watched friends and loved ones move forward in ways I can’t even understand. It’s as if they’ve all got something figured out I don’t; and I’m stuck spinning, going nowhere, getting older… Continue reading