A 22-year-old says, “Hey, I’ve fully tried every religion and philosophy there is. How come I can’t find Ultimate Reality or inner peace?”
Notice how on the Roadrunner cartoon the coyote only tries each costly contraption once.
Trying hard at everything could mean not giving the right things enough time and space to work. By time, I mean consistency—consistent learning, practice, delivery… And by space, I mean resourcefulness—keeping specifics open to modifications in terms of exactly how, where, with whom… Continue reading
Imagine you’re in a dark room. You hear familiar footsteps outside that make you shudder. You remember the last time that person came in and wouldn’t stop stomping on you.
Sure enough, they enter, you get crushed, and then the pain reminds you of your unseen assailant long after they leave.
In that scenario, you are your own heart. Continue reading
You’ve been sitting at a railway station, watching others come and go on trains. But you’re not really sure where you’re headed.
It doesn’t matter why everyone else seems sure. And you might never be. That’s ok.
The unbearable feeling of wasting life brings pressure just jump on any train. Continue reading
For now, let’s say “God” is whatever happens to be the actual cause of this reality we seem to be experiencing—the “why” or “how” behind it all.
What would be important to God (Ultimate Reality) regardless of what God really is?
If God is a person, then existence is God’s expression . . . maybe to us. Continue reading
Worst-case scenario: You rub your parents the wrong way, you don’t see things as they do, they just say they love you because they feel they have to, and they’ll never really see or understand.
Sure, you could get depressed about that . . . but would it be worth staying depressed over? For how long? Continue reading
And that would apply to all writing and characterization. Don’t take your first draft too seriously.
I believe characterization is everything in fiction. Seeing your characters come to life is what keeps you and your readers glued to the story.
So once your initial draft is done, I’d recommend going over it however many times it takes . . . editing/adjusting/adding/subtracting . . . until you can read the whole thing aloud and be happy with it. It’s during that process that you’ll really come to know your characters.
A character that’s most unlike you can be the most fun to write. I say push the boundaries. Freely explore exactly what makes you uncomfortable. Practice naturally building tension between your character’s ways and your own point of view. That natural tension can serve your story incredibly well.
Anger can do two things—one harmful, one helpful—both of which bring you fully into the present moment.
Anger sets your focus on how you wish things were right now. It fuels itself on what you feel is unfair or wrong with your current situation.
But acting on that anger could conflict with what you want in the long run . . . especially if how things are right now isn’t ultimately that important.
Anger can also heighten your intuition and instincts. If you ever have to fight for anything in your career (or elsewhere), anger can be a great source of power to draw from.
So, should you be brought fully into the present moment?
If you truly believe your dream is your potential to reach, then every attempt at figuring out how can be a lesson. You’re never certain that whatever you’re trying is exactly the right thing to do. But belief in your dream and potential shows up as resourcefulness . . . trying everything feasible/viable/advisable/imaginable, learning, and always moving forward toward your overarching (yet often practically unclear) vision.
Realizing that you don’t want your current (old) life is enough. Set that change in your perspective free, and it charts a course you could never plan for (though the right plans construct themselves as you go) to a life you already have the means to step out into and experience now.
I recommend finding a way that works for you to naturally come to life somewhere online. Do so consistently over time, and you gradually connect with all the right people who want the same things you do.
Keep going, and the new life you want gets clearer and clearer until one day you find yourself already living and enjoying it.
The task is daunting if that’s what you’re focused on (especially once you’re done blasting through your first draft). But let creating that which is in you to create make you the artist you see yourself potentially becoming. That’s how to keep the fire of vision burning long after the joy of plot cools to tedium in the space of countless re-re-re-edits.
Either this is who you are . . . or don’t bother.
Because of how it can be tied it to experience.
You find the same dynamic at play whether in the words of the Bible itself, in sermons being preached, in studies on theology, or just in conversations between Christians: Part of what’s written or said touches real human experience, while the rest frames and interprets that experience into a narrative—a story that accounts for it. Continue reading
Overall, people really aren’t that complicated. We move toward what we tend to focus on.
That same basic premise gets articulated many ways. Listen to Earl Nightingale’s powerful speeches from the ‘50s, read The Secret, follow the Faith movement in Christianity, or examine anything under the Law-of-Attraction umbrella. Continue reading
When I was 10, I remember sitting one day at the end of a very long bench. Everyone else from my class was at the other end. It was a perfect picture of how I felt at the time: ostracized, unlikable, and basically no good. Continue reading
Self-esteem doesn’t come from idealistic abstractions or images; it comes from knowing you’re taking your own next steps to live your best life right now. Continue reading
The news isn’t a statistically accurate representation. It shows only the worst of the worst, creating tension to keep you glued so sponsors’ commercials can then make promises to alleviate the tension. Continue reading
No, I see potential or possibility as the engine that drives science forward; for scientific hypotheses come as intuitions, and not as the end result of any conscious undertakings.
Intuitions are unconscious. They serve to reveal yet-unacknowledged possibilities like connections between seemingly disparate worlds.
But the scientific method used to rigorously test those intuitions (hypotheses) is certainly driven by doubt and objectivity.
Great question, since I believe emotions are physical. Yes, the stories we tell ourselves about them are mental abstractions—those looping conscious thought patterns that serve to perpetuate our state. But the feelings themselves exist in our body. Continue reading
Don’t fight your feelings.
Instead, let your feelings show you exactly what you want right now. Continue reading
I don’t think we can choose what we believe; we believe whatever we’re convinced is true.
I’d like to share a perspective to hopefully help you continue on in your search for truth without causing conflict with your loved ones. Continue reading
Ok, the glib answer: nothing
You might accomplish enough wealth to protect yourself from all attacks and ridicule; but the only way to avoid being messed with then would be total isolation. And that would be messing with yourself more than anyone else ever could, because it’s impossible to live a worthwhile life completely disconnected. Continue reading