Thoughts to Capture (For the Biggest Payoff Down the Road)

Q: What is the most important thing to write down in your personal journal every day that will have the biggest payoff down the road?

Recording more is always fun.

Filling journal pages, or taking extensive notes, can help you call to mind rich depths of experience and whole sequences of information.

But recording more might get in the way of remembering your most important life lessons.

No matter what it takes, be sure to capture every instance where someone’s words or something you go through seems to speak into the details your life . . . igniting or confirming potential, and illuminating your next steps forward.

Do you feel it is more difficult for an INFJ, or introverts in general, to obtain and retain employment?

Before landing my most recent job, I interviewed for months.

The experience was always the same.

Driving to the interview, I’d be rehearsing responses to whatever difficult questions I guessed might be asked.

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Why do I feel like an outsider and different from everyone else?

Society isn’t really that big on uniqueness. Yes, it claims to be; but really what it offers via culture and opportunity are prepackaged molds to fit and find success in (if you can).

Since we’re all always shown what success has to look like, we’re all busy searching for the best ways we can fit. Continue reading

How do you become more assertive?

It’s important to understand the difference between being assertive and aggressive.

Assertiveness isn’t a personality type, while aggressiveness is. Aggressive people are task-oriented extroverts; they’re energized by interacting with others, but what they care about are outcomes and bottom lines. That’s how they can be so fired up, blunt, and forceful, using intimidation to bend all circumstances to their whim.

Being assertive simply means being free to honestly present yourself and your thoughts exactly as you choose to. Continue reading

How do I measure my emotional intelligence (I’m in my 30’s)?

Emotional intelligence is really two things: one internal, and one relational.

First, emotional intelligence involves learning to really feel all of your emotions for exactly what they are; then the “intelligence” part comes from having the maturity/perspective to decide what you should do based on your emotions instead of just reacting to them. Continue reading