Q: What is the most important thing to write down in your personal journal every day that will have the biggest payoff down the road?
Recording more is always fun.
Filling journal pages, or taking extensive notes, can help you call to mind rich depths of experience and whole sequences of information.
But recording more might get in the way of remembering your most important life lessons.
No matter what it takes, be sure to capture every instance where someone’s words or something you go through seems to speak into the details your life . . . igniting or confirming potential, and illuminating your next steps forward.
Before landing my most recent job, I interviewed for months.
The experience was always the same.
Driving to the interview, I’d be rehearsing responses to whatever difficult questions I guessed might be asked.
Declaring yourself terrible is too easy.
Writing yourself off like that is an excuse . . . a way of hiding behind ideals of perfection.
If someone asked you to brainstorm a list of the most important things in your life, I’m sure you could easily fill a page with scribbled terms circled and joined into various categories and sub-categories of value.
No one else has your exact perspective.
This question brought to mind 2 types of instances for me—1 negative, and 1 positive. Continue reading
If you had to be honest with yourself right now, what’s the one thing your instincts, intuitions, feelings, or reasoning are trying to tell you should be your focus?
Where are you afraid to step out, connect, buckle down, or press forward?
When I was a kid, I felt very different from everyone else.
I’ve been described as shy and awkward for as long as I can remember. But something happened last year that pushed me over the edge to where I just couldn’t live that way anymore. Continue reading
Overall, people really aren’t that complicated. We move toward what we tend to focus on. Continue reading
When I was 10, I remember sitting one day at the end of a very long bench. Everyone else from my class was at the other end. It was a perfect picture of how I felt at the time: ostracized, unlikable, and basically no good. Continue reading
A friend and I were walking back to my house once after school.
Some kids started harassing my friend, laughing at him, and just trying to get a rise. Continue reading
Change your perspective on your own potential and on the people in your life. Continue reading
Society isn’t really that big on uniqueness. Yes, it claims to be; but really what it offers via culture and opportunity are prepackaged molds to fit and find success in (if you can).
Since we’re all always shown what success has to look like, we’re all busy searching for the best ways we can fit. Continue reading
It’s important to understand the difference between being assertive and aggressive.
Assertiveness isn’t a personality type, while aggressiveness is. Aggressive people are task-oriented extroverts; they’re energized by interacting with others, but what they care about are outcomes and bottom lines. That’s how they can be so fired up, blunt, and forceful, using intimidation to bend all circumstances to their whim.
Being assertive simply means being free to honestly present yourself and your thoughts exactly as you choose to. Continue reading
Emotional intelligence is really two things: one internal, and one relational.
First, emotional intelligence involves learning to really feel all of your emotions for exactly what they are; then the “intelligence” part comes from having the maturity/perspective to decide what you should do based on your emotions instead of just reacting to them. Continue reading
The short answer: See yourself thriving or improving.
Much of how you’ll beat your low self-esteem depends on its cause. To keep things simple here, I’ll just look at two major causes—two areas where people tend not to feel like they’re good enough: Continue reading