As an introvert, how can I write a “sexually confident” character?

Gradually…

And that would apply to all writing and characterization. Don’t take your first draft too seriously.

I believe characterization is everything in fiction. Seeing your characters come to life is what keeps you and your readers glued to the story.

So once your initial draft is done, I’d recommend going over it however many times it takes . . . editing/adjusting/adding/subtracting . . . until you can read the whole thing aloud and be happy with it. It’s during that process that you’ll really come to know your characters.

A character that’s most unlike you can be the most fun to write. I say push the boundaries. Freely explore exactly what makes you uncomfortable. Practice naturally building tension between your character’s ways and your own point of view. That natural tension can serve your story incredibly well.

Does anger lead to bad choices? Can anger ever be helpful?

Anger can do two things—one harmful, one helpful—both of which bring you fully into the present moment.

Harmful

Anger sets your focus on how you wish things were right now. It fuels itself on what you feel is unfair or wrong with your current situation.

But acting on that anger could conflict with what you want in the long run . . . especially if how things are right now isn’t ultimately that important.

Helpful

Anger can also heighten your intuition and instincts. If you ever have to fight for anything in your career (or elsewhere), anger can be a great source of power to draw from.

So, should you be brought fully into the present moment?

 

How can I make myself a better, more positive, and confident person?

Overall, people really aren’t that complicated. We move toward what we tend to focus on.

That same basic premise gets articulated many ways. Listen to Earl Nightingale’s powerful speeches from the ‘50s, read The Secret, follow the Faith movement in Christianity, or examine anything under the Law-of-Attraction umbrella. Continue reading

Is science driven by doubt?

No, I see potential or possibility as the engine that drives science forward; for scientific hypotheses come as intuitions, and not as the end result of any conscious undertakings.

Intuitions are unconscious. They serve to reveal yet-unacknowledged possibilities like connections between seemingly disparate worlds.

But the scientific method used to rigorously test those intuitions (hypotheses) is certainly driven by doubt and objectivity.

What can you accomplish in life so that no one messes with you?

Ok, the glib answer: nothing

You might accomplish enough wealth to protect yourself from all attacks and ridicule; but the only way to avoid being messed with then would be total isolation. And that would be messing with yourself more than anyone else ever could, because it’s impossible to live a worthwhile life completely disconnected. Continue reading

How can I stop being in a state of constant existential crisis?

Here’s my video response below:

Yes, everything we do and build will ultimately come to nothing. But our lives seem to mirror so many other forms of existence on every different scale or scope. Galaxies and particles reflect evolving lifeforms . . . and even our concepts and values. Seeing such connections makes me feel like the fact that this is all happening for whatever reason (and I get to be part of it) is utterly amazing. It motivates me to keep going. Continue reading