What can you accomplish in life so that no one messes with you?

Ok, the glib answer: nothing

You might accomplish enough wealth to protect yourself from all attacks and ridicule; but the only way to avoid being messed with then would be total isolation. And that would be messing with yourself more than anyone else ever could, because it’s impossible to live a worthwhile life completely disconnected.

Besides, such success itself breeds jealousy, malice, judgment… Those who would mess with you anyway would be even more likely to write you off or attack you for no good reason.

If you accomplish enough strength and intimidation to keep others from physically harassing you, your confrontational energy would only stir everyone up to mess with you more. They might do so in more passive aggressive ways (if they know you could overpower them) . . . but that’s worse. Then you don’t even know where they’re coming from. They might act like your best friends while really being condescending and cutting you down.

My advice: ground yourself. Be a physical being that exists in the world first.

All conflicts come from stories we tell ourselves about how things are. Some of our stories (thoughts) might be accurate representations of reality, but they’re still just representations. They don’t actually matter.

When you ground yourself, you can see all conflicts (stories, thoughts…) for what they are. You can let them happen without getting attached or being affected.

Meditate.

Exercise.

Pursue your purpose in places where your unique perspective and talents meet to build potential value somewhere real in the world. Doing so will connect you with the right people—those who want to build you up and help you be the best version of yourself.

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