Everyone now has instant access to anyone all the time.
But attention is the new currency. Laser-focused, we’re highly intentional about what we’ll give our attention to.
My best friend could send me an article or video she absolutely loves; but I probably wouldn’t get to it unless it was something I too found interesting or valuable.
So, with instant access to everyone comes the constant threat of pressure to give up control of our attention.
The text, tweet, or call comes through, and we know we’re expected to make ourselves available (right away . . . for however long).
I don’t think you’re selfish. I think a lot of people feel like you do . . . particularly those with no tolerance for pointless communication.
Let’s hope as our attention gets ever more guarded and precious that we can find a way, culturally, to alleviate the pressure to look, listen, and react.
Without that pressure, I don’t think there would be an issue. If I knew I could watch my friend’s video, read her article, see her message, and maybe get back to her sometime . . . well, then I might actually look forward to getting to it if and when I’m ready.